Day 18 - Flakiness

Flakiness is definitely one of my top three least favorite qualities in people. Seriously, how hard is it to just make a commitment and actually keep it? I've always expected people to be able to do anything I can but I know most people just lack drive and motivation so that's not fair to do.

I'm not sure why but flaky people seem to be drawn to me. I know far too many people with this quality and I wish I didn't. Why is committing so damn hard for people? Either you want to do something or you don't it seems pretty easy and I'm a strong believer in the making what you want to happen, happen.

I couldn't even tell you how many times I've had parties or little get together's and people just bail the day of. I usually give tons of notice too so it's not like the excuse of not being able to find a sitter in time or stuff like really works on me. It's so rude! Or at least I think it is and I guess that's just my opinion and opinions are like assholes after all..... I never flake unless something serious comes up and when I do I feel horrible about it.

In the last year I've really been trying to not hold it against people so much. There's just too many people like that so if I stay upset at someone every time they bail on me then I would be spending far too much time upset. Now I just keep a mental tally of how many times people flake on me and once they get to three I just stop inviting them to stuff. Obviously I'm not important enough as their friend for them not to make excuses or put an effort into making something happen so why should I be wasting my energy inviting them to stuff?

*Maria, Nicole, me, Kristin New Years 2006