I've been very blessed in my life to always have had a lot of friends. Growing up I made friends easily and I'm pretty awesome at keeping them. By that I mean I work hard at keeping my friendships alive. Even if I only see you a couple times a year I try to always make people feel wanted in my life. I find that a lot of people are lazy when it comes to friendships.
For me my friends have always been more of family then my real family ever was. They are the people I trust and rely on most. I've always spent more time with my friends then family and have even spent holidays with my friends family rather in my own at times.
Most of the friends I have I have had for ten plus years. It's makes me feel good to say I have had a consistent group of friends for so long. People grow and change and if you can change with your friends and still want to have them in your life it's a great feeling. I love being able to sit around and tell stories with my friends (although my memory sucks so usually I'm being reminded of great times lol).
There are always some that you don't keep around though. I am not a girl to be messed with. I take my friendships seriously and I know I'm a good friend so if someone is not a good friend to me then I don't need them in my life. I don't deal with liars or melodramatic people well. Whether I have known them a year or twenty if someone doesn't treat me right then I'll cut them out. I like to think I am not a dramatic person so I like to surround myself if like minded people. I don't go out of my way to create problems for people.
I'm a pretty good judge of character. There haven't been many times where I've got a bad feeling from someone and then been wrong. Some things are just easy to tell. Really I think it's mostly common sense! If you meet someone who is a crack head, liar or bitch then they are most likely going to stay a crack head, liar or bitch - right?? Don't get me wrong I believe people can change if they really want to but I also believe most people are too lazy to do so.
Over the years I have learned that just because you have known someone all your life does not mean they deserve to be in your life forever. Like I mentioned before people change and sometimes not for the better. A lot of it has to do with growing up too. When you've known the same people since you were young then it's easy to grow apart as you age. Everyone matures at different levels and it seems some people just never grow up at all. These days I just want to live a simple life and have people who are happy, honest, and caring in it.
I've also learned to cherish the really true friends I have. The people that I could call at midnight on a weeknight if I were stranded some where and they would come get me. The people that call, text, or write just to say hi. The people that include me in their life on a regular basis and not just to party. I used to just try to make everyone happy but in the end you know who your real friends are and they are the people that deserve your love the most.
*Sarah, Jacque, Kelly, Dallas, April, me, Mandy, Taurie, and Tricia 2003
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